Friday, October 16, 2009

Right or Wrong??

My husband says I am closed minded. I disagree. I believe I can HAVE my beliefs and opinions, hear and see his point of view and still keep my own beliefs and opinions. What do you think?

Apparently if I do not change my mind when he offers his opinion, then I am closed minded. This seriously boggles my mind.

Help?!?

13 comments:

WhisperingWriter said...

I have no idea...

Men make no sense.

My husband has been known to call me closed minded and I don't agree with it either.

Shelly said...

I'm thinking it's b/c sometimes men think that theirs is the correct opinion so if you don't change your opinion and agree with them, then you must be closed minded b/c everybody else obviously agrees with them! lol

Rebecca Jo said...

No offense to your hubs... but isnt that calling the kettle black? I mean, if someone disagrees with what you say - then isnt HE the closed minded one? It takes a maturity to be able to accept & understand people are going to believe other things & have different thoughts on a subject... heck, if me & my husband agreed on anything, I'd probably have a heart attack! (ha!!!)

AmyLK said...

I agree with Rebecca Jo. And if you agreed with everything he says, wouldn't that make things boring? A little disagreement gives you something to talk about!

Deb said...

oh, silly, silly hubs... he's just not ready to accept the truth yet. give him time. mine took around 15 years to come around to seeing that my way of thinking is always right. oh just kidding... sort of.

seriously, here is my real answer. he actually is wrong on this because i see you as very committed to your beliefs and convictions, but extremely compassionate and open minded toward those that hold opposing views (except maybe in politics, lol.).i have written about things that i think, "ugh, i hope denise doesn't think less of me!" and lo and behold, you respond in your usual sweet and loving way.

so there.

Alice in Wonderland said...

Totally agree with WhisperingWriter, men have no sense!
What a boring life to have to agree with each other ALL of the time!
This makes for no conversation at all in your lives!
Women ALWAYS know what is best!!!

Brenda Jean said...

Everyone else said what I was thinking, so I guess all that's left is to share these last resort methods you should either:

Bop him on the head.

Tell him you've decided to become celibate unless he wants to respect your opinion OR finally--

Put your hands over your ears when he talks and say "na, na, na, na, na, I CAN'T hear you."

M-Cat said...

Tough one, since at the end of the day, when all is said and done, your relationship with him is the most important.

There are things that I just can't have my hubby harp on. He is well intended, but since neither of us will see the same on the matter, we choose to not discuss. If we have to, then we do very, very, very, very carefully.

Somtimes silence is needed for a little while.

Mom said...

Thats rediculous... Everyone is entitled to thier own oppinion and it does not have to agree with his. That does not make you closed minded. I have had conversations with you and we both agreed and some where we disagreed and we agreed to disagree but we each listened to each others views. He is the close minded one in your house. At least you will listen.

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kys said...

It's being closed minded to refuse to listen to another opinion. If you are hearing and seeing his point of view then he should be happy with that. (Just MHO)

Mimi said...

It seems like he may not be open minded enough to really "hear" you.

Just try to keep communicating.

EmmaP said...

so everytime he gives you his opinion to which you disagree simply state, "I am open minded enough to see where you are coming from, however I choose to stand by my original opinion on this. Isn't it great how we can agree to disagree, since we're such open-minded people?" most likely all he will hear is, "Wah-wah-wah-wah-wah... I disagree... wah-wah-wah"

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