Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Disheartening

Recently I posted a blog that offended someone. This has really upset me because I never like to upset anyone and I also don't like confrontation. Yes, I am glad that this person spoke up to let me know that I upset them. But no matter how many times I try to explain what I meant, this person still thinks that what I wrote had different meanings and was offensive. So I am publicly apologizing. I am sorry that I offended you. But as much as I truly mean my apology, I still hold true to the fact that what I wrote was NOT what you think. It was what I said it was.

This is the first time that I have faced an issue like this. A situation where I wrote something that another person took in a completely different way. It really is disheartening. And will probably cause me to step back from posting as openly as I have in the past. How can I post as freely when I risk offending people, even when I think a post is harmless and cute. What I thought was my space to unload just isnt quite the same now.

10 comments:

Kristina P. said...

That sucks.

Heather said...

I'm sorry...this is YOUR blog and you should be able to post whatever you want...that stinks that someone wants you to "watch what you say"!

Katie@The Baby Factory said...

Sorry to hear that, Denise. I struggle with that alot because I know that I have a tendancy to be flippant with my words at times and have in real life offended people completely unintentionally.
It is a good and hard lesson to learn that our tongues {even in blog form} can be hurtful.
Praying you will have wisdom. You did what you could, though! God bless!

Blog Stalker said...

It is unfortunate when someone will not listen to reason. Especially when something is taken out of context. It is yur blog and therefore they who are offended for any reason can go their way and its over.

Do not lose sleep oversomeone else.

Have a great day!

Amy said...

It is unfortunate that someone took something you said out of context. Once you offer an apology or explanation it is up to them to accept or reject. You should not feel that you need to censor yourself in your postings. This is your forum to say and do what you will.

I do not know you personally but what I do know from your posts is that you are a kind hearted person who I don't think would intentionally hurt someone with your words.

Wendyburd1 said...

I understand I have had that happened. Written words can't hold the way you would say them in your voice, so I hurt a bloggy friend when I was being my sarcastic funny self, but it apparently did NOT some off that way and it snowballed so lots of people were mad at me.

I try to be careful but I remind myself it IS my blog and I am trying to be me. So recognize I use sarcasm to be funny, and ask if you think I meant it as an insult because I NEVER mean to insult!! Stick to your guns, you tried and they just don't want to get what YOU meant!

EmmaP said...

i am sure there are people ho think my blog is too sassy or saucy or sarcastic. well, then they don't have to read it. I was criticized this pst year for being too "open" and being an "over-sharer"... It bugged me. This is how sort out the thoughts in my head -- I blog. anyway, I realize that not everyone will understand what I post or why. But in the end, that is their problem. If I have a clean conscience, then it isn't my problem if they choose not to let it go. I hope your offendee will come around. if not, oh well. Please keep blogging openly!!! I love it!!!

AmyLK said...

It is a shame that you feel you have to censor what you post. But this is YOUR blog, where you come to sound off, share your life and your faith with the world.

I think that because you have apologized several times, the entire thing should just be dropped. If the person doesn't like what you write on YOUR blog, they don't have to read it. That's their choice.

And I agree completely with EmmaP!!!!!!

kys said...

I've had that happen before, too. You can't please everyone all the time. There are some people out there who are easily riled up over trivial things. It's your blog and if you can't say what you want on your own blog, where can you??

Smooches to you! Hang in there.

Deb said...

i guess i have had this post minimized since tuesday! i just went to update my computer and this popped up!

listen, i am so sorry you are blue about this. it is this type of thing that makes it so hard for me to speak my mind. BUT, anyone who knows you AT ALL knows what a heart of gold you have and that you would never purposely hurt anyone.

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